Quit fighting and just date already!

This book is great! However it can be very frustrating to read at times when I can so closely relate to the characters and situations they are in. I find myself thinking out loud all of the time. I am just waiting for them to accept the inevitable and date already. It is not just that they need to give into the physical, it is the fact that they just need to accept that they genuinely like each other.

This is one of my biggest pet peeves in the dating world. One of the parties involved is usually not honest enough up front or gives mixed signals. On top of all of that someone also does what Min and Cal are doing, which is denying their true feelings for each other. This may be because of past experiences and hurts that they have experienced. That is not to say that caution is not appropriate in the beginning of a friendship or new relationship. I feel that the caution should be tempered with honesty and less game playing.

For example if you ask someone out and things seem to go great and you try to set up the next date, but they are always unavailable or do not return your messages then honesty would be the most appropriate course of action from both people. If the person is genuinely not interested then they should just say "I had a great time, but do not want to go out again", rather than lead a person on or play hard to get. If for some reason they are interested but cautious because of past hurts then they should tell the other person that. They should say something to the effect of " I had great time and would like to see you again, but I would like to take it slow". Both of these approaches are honest and are not overly hurtful to either person. It is this lack of honesty and communication that destroys or inhibits many relationships in this day and age.

To bring this back to the book, if Minerva would have told Cal that she new about the bet then he would have had the opportunity to be honest with her. They then could have talked about it and moved forward from there. They may have not seen each other again, but at least the lie would be out in the open. After a few weeks of the truth being out there it may have been possible for them to still fall for each other with out any false pretenses. According to the book, the chaos and fairy tale theories will bring them together regardless of their actions. I just think that it would be nice if their actions were a little more honest. Honesty aside, it is a nice story and realistic for the most part.