life's like an hour glass glued to the table

Within the dating world there are many different perceptions on what the "perfect" first date may be. The intentions of the date and financial situations of the people can end up being major determinants of where or what the date may be. With dating you can never know what to expect. Sometimes the "blinders" come on and you may only end up seeing the parts you want in you new found companion. That's why people have friends to help them realize the full potential of a person. I feel that's what Bonnie and Liza are doing with Min. They just want the best for their friend and are tying to look out for her. They do have quiet amusing ways of doing this. Bonnie and Liza open Min's eyes to things she might have never noticed, but this is mostly about her own self and how she is afraid of taking chances, her body and how she doesn't realize she can be happy and with someone who loves her even because of her flaws. Min's friends help but when it comes to people putting her down her mother is the queen bitch. She reminds me of Mrs. Bennet from "Pride and Prejudice",always pushing her daughters to act a certain way or get a husband instantly. That's just something moms shouldn't do. It will happen when it happens. You can't rush love (even though people do seem to fall easily in "Bet Me"). I really enjoy this book mostly the fact that Cal is helping Min to discover herself and show her a differnt way of of life, not always filled with restrictions. I think I should apply these ways of living outside the box to my own life. I tend to always take the safer route, but I think it's about time for a change.