The List

We each have our own list of traits and characteristics that our "ideal life partner" should have. Let's see, I for one, like tall men, well, he has to be taller than me even if I wear high heels.  He has to be really good-looking, good-looking enough that my heart skips a beat every time I look at him. Good-looking enough that I my eyes wouldn't be wandering at other men, when I'm with him. LoL! He has to be smart, athletic, kind-hearted, gentle, suave, have good manners, neat, and have a positive attitude.  AND of course, he has to have a nice, hot body to look at! It's already hard enough with dating and finding the right "one."  Let alone have a characteristics list to check off with each guy.  We, as women, are picky, but in the end, we only want to be with someone to love us, have a marriage and children with and grow old with us. 

I know how hard it is for Minerva and Calvin when some of those characteristics on our mental list doesn't check off.  But if we look past the outside onto the inside, we'll each find that we're similar afterall.  If we're satisfied with the inner core, we don't really need the outside shell to be beautiful to be happy.  How many stories have we heard or seen, that not all beautiful people are satisified with their lives and their partners? How many times have we heard of the handsome, hot lawyer or doctor cheating and their spouses are un-happy?  Therefore, shouldn't we learn to allow ourselves not to be too picky?  I suppose, as long as  some of the characteristics on our mental lists of wants for our "ideal" partner is checked off, it is good enough. 

As if dating and finding the right one isn't hard enough for Minerva, she has her mother to make things harder for her.  Everyone of us has one of those in our lives.  It's hard to ignore them and do our own things and in turn, be happy.  Just one negative can turn ten positives into a dreadful, gloomy day.  

I felt that Jennifer Crusie did a wonderful job in writing, Bet Me.  It's about "real life."  About what some of us women go through to find the our "guy," about what supports in life we have and about the positives and negatives in life.