Today in class, we briefly touched on the question of whether a person can have more than one "true" love in their life. In today's popular culture, the answer to that question would undoubtedly be "no". Today, people prefer the idealized notion of having a soul mate: the idea that somewhere in the world is that one person who is the other half of you, the only person that you are "meant to be" with.
In my opinion, soul mates simply do not exist; on the contrary, I believe that each one of us could find happiness and lasting love with any number of different people. While initial attraction and romance have their role in bringing two people together, it's what the two people do when the "honeymoon phase" is over that determines the staying power of their relationship. While many believe that predetermined destiny leads to a happy life together, I believe that it is shared experiences and a commitment to actively love each other that results in a unique and unbreakable love. In life we have an endless succession of choices, and who and how we love is one of the very biggest.
My favorite imagery in the book is at the very end, when Bronte paints a picture of the three gravestones: Heathcliff's, brand new, Edgar's, being to wear, and Catherine's in the middle, very nearly hidden in the heather. I can't imagine a more haunting and emotional symbol of a life lived fully, with intense love, sweet love, companionship, jealousy, and an angry heart made clean at last.
i agree with you to some extent. I believe that if you love someone it doesn't matter whether or not you were "meant to be". But with that said what if that one person you find is actually indeed who you were meant to be with.. i guess there is a bunch of ways to look at this and could be talked about a lot.
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